Dear Mr. Nice Guy,
I appreciate your feigned concern over the welfare of women whom you perceive to have ill-gotten taste in men because they 'only date assholes.' There are just a few problems that I would like to point out that may help you realize why you're always the guy who finishes last, because let's not kid ourselves any longer.
Problem the First is that nobody looks for assholes to date. No woman is deliberately looking to get treated like shit. We just happen to end up dating assholes because many assholes have perfected the art of keeping their true nature a secret, and because women are conditioned from the time we develop cognitive reasoning to accept that our entire worth as people revolves around whether we make a decent mate. In practical terms, this means that if a woman is single for too long, there's an implication that there's something wrong with her to make her undateable and therefore worthless. Ergo, many women will seem to tolerate shitty behavior in their mates because they don't want to be viewed as unable to keep a man interested. You can thank men and all the years of forcibly marrying your daughter off right after puberty for that one.
Problem the Second is that what you're seeing as assholishness, she's seeing as confidence, and to her that's attractive. See, not everyone she dates is going to be a genuine asshole. They just seem that way because none of those guys are you and you happen to have an artificially inflated opinion of yourself to compensate for your insecurities. A guy who is rough around the edges but still confident enough to be upfront about his intentions instead of trying to weasel his way into her life is going to get more respect just for being honest.
Problem the Third is that if you are befriending or being kind to a woman with the end goal of having sex with her, that makes you just as much of an asshole. You're just more subtle about it. The reason it makes you an asshole is because just like the ones you think she's dating, you don't see her as a person, either. She's a prize. A reward for not being an overt douchebag. You are still objectifying and dehumanizing her, but doing so under the guise of friendship and caring. And frankly that just makes you creepy rather than nice.
See, nobody owes you sex or a relationship in return for pretending to be a decent human being. As a famous image macro says, women are not machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out. If you're being nice purely because you're expecting a reward, you're still an asshole, full stop. Women have the right to refuse your advances no matter how nice you're being, because nobody is entitled to another person in any way whatsoever.
It's your duty to handle rejection like someone who isn't an asshole.
Regards,
The Patron of Sarcasm
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